I know iv'e touched on this topic before, but how do you incorporate a normal functional connection while your child or children are away on visitation with the other parent?. I've seen too many times when a parent uses promises of toys to gain a child's love as a tool to get the child to want to come back to them. I find that this is unnecessary and only builds love of material items versus love of quality time with the parent. Most children crave the company of a parent more then any of the newest toys sold in stores. Of course any child loves a new gift. But I try to keep in mind that these things are temporary and money doesn't last for ever different circumstances do arise and for parents that are on a limited income should try to find ways to build long lasting bonds with the child so that the child grows to appreciate the comfort and company of a loving parent. And as the child grows into an adult and perhaps becomes a parent them selves they understand what the true meaning of parenting is and will be able to provide a loving relationship to their own children one day. Just remember there are many ways to spend time with your children that no store bought toys can do. Children out grow their toys in very short times but hold onto the love of a parent.
It doesn't matter if your time with your children is only a weekend or for a month or even a couple weeks. And for some only a few hours. Show your child you are interested in what they are creating. They can only become smarter and more loving when we show this interest. I like to allow mine to build with blocks. And make paper planes as well as drawing. The look on their faces when they have created something great is joyous. And showing your child how to create builds a very strong bond. Take it back to basics if you can. By removing the over stimulating toys that typically keep a child's interest for only a short time and give them the tools to build and create. Your bond will strengthen. For some this will be a tough challenge since children become quite attached to the quick fix of this toy or that toy or even tons of candy. Just like the grown ups with facebook and the newest cellphones. You know how most of us start to break a sweat if our battery starts to deplete while out some were and no charger in site. children get a similar reaction to not getting what they want when they want it. But if you can remain steadfast and see it through the skills and loving bond you build and share with your child are long standing and they will hold onto you dearly for showing them the greater things life has to offer which is LOVE.
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