Most Americans are family oriented. We love to travel and stop over at distant relatives homes as well as our closer family members that have moved out of the area. These are truly great things we do as Americans. Making time for our loved ones. But what do we do when we find ourselves stuck in a unhealthy situation that could pose a risk to our well being and our overall safety? What if you plan a visit far from home and are utilizing a limited budget. Then once you arrive find that your loved one is not living in a safe environment. And have to wait to return home.
For most we become easily involved in petty nonsense. But can work things out somewhat fairly and move on to enjoy the visit. For some they get the worst scenario such as becoming stuck between a drug addicted girlfriend/boyfriend and there family member. This is a tough one. Some people are very firm on a zero tolerance for drugs and or alcohol. And for others they don't care as long as the user isn't bothering them.
This is such a tough situation. And careful consideration should be considered before overreacting. Since there's some degree of dysfunctional behavior on the loved ones part for allowing these activities to take place around guests.
Sure it's hard to let someone you love go. And sure its hard to not become involved in family matters. But this here is were we have to draw a line. Take a step back and check it out. Ask your self. "what's really going on here?" If there is a real concern for safety then I would remove myself from the area. Call the police. And find a couch to crash on until things cool down.
If it's just petty drama, Such as BF/GF borrowing the car for thirty minutes that turns into two days. And it's a repeated event. Then ignore it. And don't be afraid nor feel sorry nor bad when you say "No." to what ever the request may be from your loved one to help fix the situation. Remember. This is a reoccurring event. This is something "They" are allowing to happen. This is an environment "They" have created and by allowing your self to get sucked into the even you become equally responsible for the even and your livelihood equally taxed. Don't be shy if you feel like having a nice talk about whats happening and how you feel with family. Let them know in a mature manner that you are there to spend quality time with them. And that this could jeopardize future visits.
They may come to realize whats going on. If not don't fret just remember you don't have to go back for another visit. And always, always remember safety first , if the situation seems fit for a call to the police, then call. No one needs to get hurt.
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